Who Are You?

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

George Bernard Shaw

In a recent coaching session, a client shared her learning and reflections.  Working in technical roles throughout her career, the client had fine-tuned her rationale, logic and analysis skills to build success.  As with many other technical experts, this had helped her achieve a Senior Leadership role.  

As part of her coaching work, the client discussed her desire to build stronger relationships with others, alongside developing her own executive presence.  Like many others, social conversation was challenging for her and she wished to build her confidence in this area. 

Through coaching, the client explored her “core” and articulated her purpose as a leader, her identity and her values.  Through this process, she remembered an old desire to learn to play a musical instrument.  A few months ago, she started lessons and has found that exploring a new facet of her identity has increased her confidence and her resilience.  This has impacted on how she “shows up” at peer and social events in a positive way.

The field of positive psychology shows that when we cultivate multiplicity of identity it helps us to resource ourselves and sustain our resilience.  

You may find it useful to consider the following questions:

  • What did you love to do as a child which you no longer pursue as an adult?
  • What skill have you always wanted to learn but never got around to?
  • What brings you joy and do you spend enough time doing it?